I love Saturdays. This is the day of the week when I can squeeze in a little me-time with my books, blog and journal while enjoying my favorite iced white chocolate mocha less two pumps of white chocolate, non-fat, no whip. As I wait for my husband to finish his huddle session with his team, I do my thing. And just this week, I downloaded Joey Bonifacio‘s free ebook — The One Lesson That Changed my Marriage. You can subscribe to his site and download free ebooks. 🙂
Just a few pages into it and I’ve already noted lessons I believe are worth sharing to my married friends. Just like these four ingredients of a successful marriage.
Now you guys bear with me – I did try my best to make everything readable (I am only using my iPad writing this so I was not able to incorporate photos); so here it goes…
1. Trust
Trust is the foundation of a successful marriage. Whatever you do, make sure that it builds trust. Anything that destroys trust must be avoided or discarded. There is nothing uglier than a jealous wife or husband. Make every effort to build trust, whether through your words or acHons, in all aspects of your marriage.
2. Love
While trust is the foundation, love is the motivation of a great marriage. It’s about serving the other person and not waiting for them to serve you. It’s about dying to selfish desires and finding joy in bringing pleasure to your spouse.
Marriage is a daily journey of continually growing in joy, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control. There is nothing more beautiful than a confident spouse who knows she is the one who brings joy, warmth, and pleasure to your eyes.
3. Forgiveness
Forgiveness is the reset button of a marriage that has hung. It allows couple to reboot when the frictions of life affect them. It’s the thing that Jesus says makes the imperfect perfect. Forgiveness is what cleanses a relationship everyday and leaves no trace of rust that creates even more friction. There is nothing more peaceful than a marriage further overwhelmed by a constant and immediate atmosphere of forgiveness.
4. Communication
Lastly, communication is the process to a successful marriage. Just as photosynthesis is to plants and sun, communication is the process of continual and interdependent exchange of words, ideas, and actions between two people that build the relationship.
Now this may be a little easy to understand but its application sure takes our entire married life. ❤
Seek and Delight 